Am I Emotionally Unavailable?
Answer 10 honest questions about how you show up in relationships. The walls you built for protection may now be keeping love out.
When someone you care about is having a hard time, how do you respond?
From your report: Core Wound Patterns
What are you hiding from yourself?
The Moon reversed in the Core Wound position speaks to a pattern of emotional suppression that began long before you had words for it. Somewhere in childhood, you learned that your feelings were too much — too intense, too inconvenient, too real for the people around you...
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Understanding Emotional Availability
Emotional availability is your capacity to be genuinely present in relationships — to give and receive vulnerability, to tolerate closeness without running, and to show up consistently even when it's uncomfortable. It's not about being emotional; it's about being accessible.
Most emotionally unavailable people aren't cold or heartless — they're protected. At some point, being emotionally open cost them something painful, and they adapted by building walls. The walls worked: they prevented further pain. But walls that keep hurt out also keep love out. The question isn't whether you have walls — it's whether you're ready to install a door.
“Emotional unavailability isn't coldness — it's protection. At some point, being open cost you something painful, and your system decided that walls were safer than doors. The question is whether you're still in danger, or just still defending.”
Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners?
Often, the people we're drawn to mirror our own attachment patterns. If you consistently attract unavailable partners, it may be worth exploring your own availability. Sometimes "I keep attracting unavailable people" is actually "available people don't trigger the chemistry I associate with love."
Is this quiz for assessing myself or my partner?
This quiz is designed for self-assessment. While you can take it with your partner in mind, the most powerful use is honest self-reflection. Understanding your own availability patterns is the first step toward changing them.
This quiz is for self-reflection purposes only. It is not a clinical diagnosis or substitute for professional help.
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