Love Language Quiz
Discover how you naturally give and receive love. Answer 10 questions to reveal your primary love language.
What makes you feel most loved after a long, difficult day?
What Are the 5 Love Languages?
The concept of love languages describes five distinct ways people express and experience love. Understanding your primary love language helps you communicate your needs and recognize how your partner shows care — even when it looks different from what you expect.
💬 Words of Affirmation
Verbal encouragement, compliments, and spoken expressions of love.
🤲 Acts of Service
Helpful actions that ease your burden and show thoughtful care.
🎁 Receiving Gifts
Thoughtful, symbolic gifts that show someone was thinking of you.
⏳ Quality Time
Full, undivided attention and meaningful shared experiences.
🫂 Physical Touch
Hugs, hand-holding, and physical closeness that creates connection.
How This Quiz Works
Our quiz presents 10 relationship scenarios and asks how you naturally respond. Each answer maps to traits associated with the five love languages. Your results show your primary love language along with a secondary style if your preferences span multiple languages — which is common and completely normal.
Dr. Gary Chapman introduced the five love languages in 1992, and while the framework has become widely popular, peer-reviewed research (including a University of Toronto review inCurrent Directions in Psychological Science) suggests love languages are best understood as a vocabulary for talking about preferences, not a rigid diagnosis. Most people value all five forms of love but tend to gravitate toward one or two that feel most natural and meaningful.
Love Languages and Relationships
The real value of knowing your love language isn't labeling yourself — it's building a shared vocabulary with your partner. When you can say "I feel most loved when you give me your full attention" instead of a vague "I don't feel loved," it gives your partner something concrete to work with.
Gottman Institute research on emotional responsiveness shows that the most important factor in relationship satisfaction isn't matching languages — it's recognizing and turning toward your partner's "bids for connection," whatever form they take. In lasting marriages, partners respond positively to bids 86% of the time, compared to 33% in relationships that later dissolve.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I have more than one love language?
Yes. Most people have a primary and secondary love language, and preferences can shift depending on the relationship, life stage, and context. Think of it as a spectrum rather than a single category.
Is giving different from receiving?
Often, yes. You might naturally show love through acts of service but feel most loved when receiving words of affirmation. This quiz focuses on how you receive love, as understanding your needs helps you communicate them to partners.
How does this relate to attachment style?
Love languages describe how you prefer to give and receive affection, while attachment style describes your deeper patterns around closeness and security. They complement each other — take our attachment style quiz for the full picture.
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