Answer 12 honest questions about your partner's behavior. Not every difficult partner is a narcissist — but the distinction matters for your wellbeing and your next steps.
If you or someone you know is experiencing narcissistic abuse, help is available 24/7:
The word "narcissist" has become overused in popular culture, which makes it harder to identify when you're actually dealing with one. Not every selfish, difficult, or emotionally unavailable partner is a narcissist. The distinction matters because the approach is completely different: communication problems can be fixed with new skills; narcissistic abuse requires you to protect yourself.
This quiz distinguishes between four patterns: normal relationship conflict (imperfect but healthy), emotional immaturity (a skills deficit that can improve), narcissistic traits (a persistent pattern of manipulation and entitlement), and narcissistic abuse (systematic control that requires safety planning).
No. Only a licensed mental health professional can diagnose Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and they would need to evaluate your partner directly. This quiz helps you identify patterns in your relationship that may warrant professional guidance — it is not a clinical tool.
If you're afraid of your partner finding out you took a quiz about your relationship, that fear itself is significant information. In a healthy relationship, both partners should feel safe exploring their feelings and seeking outside perspectives. If you need to hide this from your partner, please consider reaching out to the hotline number above.
This quiz is for self-reflection purposes only. It is not a clinical diagnosis or substitute for professional help. If you are in danger, please contact emergency services or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
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