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Codependency was originally identified in partners and families of people with addiction, but the pattern extends far beyond that context. At its core, codependency is chronic self-abandonment — the habit of prioritizing others' needs so consistently that you lose track of your own.
Codependency isn't the same as being caring, generous, or empathetic. The difference is choice: healthy giving comes from genuine desire; codependent giving comes from the terror of what happens if you stop. When your value as a person depends on being needed, "selflessness" becomes a survival strategy rather than a virtue.
Clear boundaries, strong sense of self, gives generously from choice rather than obligation.
The ideal: two whole people sharing life together, leaning without collapsing.
Identity fused with others, compulsive giving, boundaries dissolved, exhaustion masked as devotion.
The other side of the coin — walls built so high that independence becomes isolation.
Codependency is not a formal DSM-5 diagnosis, but it is widely recognized by mental health professionals as a significant relational pattern that often co-occurs with anxiety, depression, and CPTSD. Many therapists specialize in codependency recovery.
Codependency typically develops in childhood when love was conditional on being useful, quiet, or accommodating. Children who learn that their worth depends on managing others' emotions carry this pattern into adult relationships. It's an adaptation, not a defect.
This quiz is for self-reflection purposes only. It is not a clinical diagnosis or substitute for professional help.
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