Answer 12 honest questions to identify your relationship pattern. Not every difficult relationship is toxic — and not every toxic relationship looks the way you'd expect.
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Not all relationship problems are toxic, and not all toxicity looks the same. Research from the Gottman Institute shows that the difference between couples who thrive and couples who dissolve comes down to specific, identifiable patterns — not the presence or absence of conflict itself.
This quiz assesses five distinct patterns: healthy connection, communication breakdown (fixable with the right tools), codependency (where identity becomes enmeshed), narcissistic dynamics (manipulation and control), and crisis patterns (where safety may be at risk). Understanding which pattern you're in is the first step toward changing it.
No. This quiz is a self-reflection tool designed to help you identify patterns. It is not a clinical assessment or diagnosis. If your results suggest concerning patterns, please reach out to a licensed therapist or counselor who specializes in relationship dynamics.
Tarot archetypes are symbolic frameworks that have been used for centuries to understand human dynamics. We pair psychology-based assessment with tarot symbolism because metaphor can illuminate patterns that clinical language alone sometimes misses. The psychology is the foundation; the tarot is the mirror.
This quiz is for self-reflection purposes only. It is not a clinical diagnosis or substitute for professional help. If you are in danger, please contact emergency services or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
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