Relationship Psychology
Evidence-Based Guides to Love, Attachment & Healing
Understanding the psychology behind your relationship patterns is the most powerful thing you can do for your love life. These guides draw on attachment theory, Gottman research, and clinical psychology to help you see clearly and choose wisely.
Whether you're trying to understand why you keep attracting the same type of partner, wondering why he pulled away, or healing from a relationship that left you questioning your own reality — the answers are in the patterns. And patterns can be changed once you see them clearly.
Every guide below is grounded in peer-reviewed research: Bowlby and Ainsworth's attachment theory, Gottman's communication research, Levine and Heller's work on adult attachment, and clinical frameworks from therapists like Sue Johnson and Stan Tatkin. We've translated the science into plain language so you can understand what's happening — and what to do about it.
Attachment & Relationship Dynamics
How your early experiences shape the way you love — and what to do when the patterns aren't working.
The Anxious-Avoidant Trap
Why opposites attract — and how to break the pursuit-withdrawal cycle that keeps both partners trapped.
Emotionally Unavailable Man
The psychology behind emotional unavailability — signs, root causes, and what you can actually do about it.
Signs He Is Pulling Away
Why men withdraw, how to tell deactivation from disengagement, and how to respond without pushing him further.
What Is Limerence?
The neuroscience of obsessive romantic infatuation — signs, stages, and how to break free when love becomes addiction.
Red Flags & Toxic Patterns
Recognising manipulation and abuse — because naming the pattern is the first step to breaking it.
Love Bombing Signs
When intensity masks manipulation — the 12 signs, the narcissistic cycle, and how to protect yourself.
Narcissistic Relationship Signs
The idealise-devalue-discard cycle, manipulation tactics like gaslighting and DARVO, and how to get out.
Trauma Bonding Signs
Why your brain keeps you attached to someone who hurts you — the 7 stages and how to break the bond.
Codependent Relationship Signs
When caring becomes self-erasure — signs, childhood roots, and the path to healthy interdependence.
Communication & Conflict
The research on what makes relationships succeed — and the specific patterns that predict failure.
Healing & Transitions
Moving forward after a breakup — the psychology of rebounds, recovery, and building something healthier.
Rebound Relationship Signs
Is it real love or unfinished grief? The psychology of rebounding and when a rebound can become real.
Stages of a Breakup
The neuroscience of heartbreak — why it feels like withdrawal and how each stage of recovery actually works.
The No Contact Rule
Why silence heals what words can't — the science of neural extinction, timeline, and when exceptions apply.
Healthy Relationship Checklist
30 research-based green flags — what a healthy relationship actually looks like, backed by Gottman and Tatkin.
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Start With Your Attachment Style
Your attachment style is the lens through which you experience every relationship. Understanding it changes everything — from who you're attracted to, to how you handle conflict, to why certain patterns keep repeating.