You’re not confused about what this is. Check the evidence you already have.
Twenty-six observable patterns across four domains — scored in ten minutes with one pen. Situationships don’t survive on lies; they survive on unassembled information. This is the one place it all gets assembled.
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Domain one (the label allergy) and the scoring read. Watermarked previews.
Not flags. Evidence.
A flag is a warning about the future. Most of what this checklist holds is plainer: things that have already happened, more than once, that you’ve noticed and filed under "it’s complicated." Each fact is small enough to explain away on its own. The whole picture has just never been put in one place.
Three rules make it work: mark behaviour, not vibes. Count the last two months, not the golden fortnight. And nothing here decides anything — the checklist assembles what you already know; what you do with it was always yours.
From the read
Fifteen or more: you didn’t need the checklist, and some part of you knew that when you bought it. What you needed was permission to stop explaining each item away one at a time. Here it is, in your own handwriting.
Who is this for?
The four domains
One.The Label Allergy
How they respond when the thing threatens to become a named thing
Two.The Effort Ledger
Who builds this, and whose life bends to fit it
Three.The Visibility Test
Where you exist in their actual, witnessed life
Four.Your Body Already Voted
The evidence you carry — which counts exactly as much as theirs
Then.The Read
Your four counts, the honest bands, and what the score is not
Last.The One Question
The question that needs no meeting — and starting shapes if you’re having the conversation
What you leave with
- Twenty-six marks that turn two months of "it’s complicated" into one readable page.
- Four domain counts and a total, with bands that tell you what the number tends to mean — and hand the verdict back.
- The one question that matters more than "what are we" — and it needs nothing from them.
- Three starting shapes for the conversation, yours to adjust, never to recite.
- The rule that outlasts the checklist: believe the behaviour of the following month over the words of the evening.
- Ten minutes from download to done.
If the fear of asking is fear of their reaction, the checklist says plainly: that’s a different situation from ambiguity, and it points to real support.
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Twenty-six patterns. Ten minutes. The evidence you already have, finally in one place.
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Common questions
Is this the full situationship workbook?
No — this is the 10-minute instrument. The full workbook (Situationship: The Honest Workbook, 80 pages) goes on to the terms, the costs, the three-door decision and the conversation planned for every outcome. Start here if you want the evidence assembled first; the checklist stands alone.
Will it tell me to leave?
No. It assembles evidence and hands the read back to you. The score page even warns you about reaching for the "people are complicated" lifeboat — and notes that the reach is also data.
What if the score is low?
Then either it’s genuinely early, or your ambiguity is the ordinary, resolvable kind — and the one-question page will do more for you than the score did. A low score is a real answer too.
Why does it cost anything?
It’s ten focused minutes that took a lot longer than ten minutes to design: observable items only, honest bands, no verdict-mongering. $4.99 keeps it a tool, not a listicle.
Digital or print?
Print-first PDF, US Letter, 10 pages. Works fine on a phone in a pinch — it’s mostly circling. Instant download after purchase.
Who’s behind it?
Taro’s Tarot — same line as everything we publish: behaviour over vibes, your safety over any framework, and no promises about what they’ll do next.
Ready for the full programme? Situationship: The Honest Workbook — the terms, the three doors, and the conversation.
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